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What a Difference 5 Months Can Make

It is hard to believe it has nearly been 5 months since I left my marriage and Australia.

Even harder to believe is just how much my life has turned around since. Don’t get me wrong – the first couple of days I was in a semi state of shock – Did I finally get out? Did I finally do it? Am I actually back in the USA?

Then, a large sense of relief set in with the realization, “I will never have to live like that again”. While I returned home completely directionless – an overwhelming sense of freedom squashed a good part of my fears.

Over the years, my spirit had become completely crushed – I was an empty shell. I honestly had lost all sense of self, all sense of self worth and my confidence. I became unrecognizable to the people who had known and loved me my whole life – I didn’t even know who I was anymore.

All it took was one full month of removing myself from a toxic situation for my friends and family to begin making comments about how happy they were to see me smiling again.

Fast-forward 5 months… and I am still amazed by how much has changed.

On my return to the USA, I spent my first 3 weeks in Arizona. It was then I decided I would move to Arizona after spending the holidays with my family in New Hampshire. What can I say, I knew I needed them more than ever and I felt I had already missed out on so much with them over the years.

Once in New Hampshire, I decided I would focus on only three things: my health, my family and work.

Since I was literally starting from ground zero, was still emotionally beat up and knew a move was in the near future, I wanted to avoid getting overwhelmed with trying to fix too much at once.

The first thing I decided to tackle was my health…

In 2.5 months I lost just over 30lbs/13.6kg (amazing what the removal of drama can do). While I still have 40lbs./18.14kg more to lose (and will) – the changes in my face and body have been beyond exciting…

I am finally starting to see me again.

In addition to focusing on my weight, I picked up a seasonal job to get through the holidays and started focusing on turning my art into a career.

Then – right after Christmas – I made the big move/drive from New Hampshire to Arizona.

So – here I am – living in Arizona with my brother. I am 30lbs. lighter and covered in paint 90% of the time. I am still trying to find a job that will help pay the bills while getting the art going. I am doing my best to annoy family and friends any chance I get… And of all the things I would have never expected, I am now dating an amazing guy who encourages my silliness and creativity (even matches both) while making me laugh regularly.

While some struggles are still present and will be for awhile, I am currently the happiest I have been on a personal level in… 6 or 7 years?

I am so glad I finally said, “enough.”

87 thoughts on “What a Difference 5 Months Can Make

  1. Congratulations on taking back your life. It has been three years since my marriage ended and it has been a rough time healing and trying to put my life back together with my sons. I enjoyed watching you on Ghost Hunters as I’m currently watching the Philadelphia Zoo episode. Best of luck in your future endeavors.

  2. Kris,

    I’m very happy you got away from what was keeping you down and out and obviously had the ambition and follow through to put it behind you. Great to see you smile and shine again. I’ve always been a huge fan and have the autographed photo to prove it! Keep on being you. You’re an inspiration.

  3. That’s SO wonderful to hear!!!!! I know all of them accomplishments were HUGE steps!!!! So proud of you!

  4. Glad you’re doing great Kris. It’s been awesome to see you get back to who you are. We have your back in this.

  5. Hi Kris, it’s nice to hear from you, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re marriage didn’t work and thanks for sharing you’re story, I have been wondering about you and how you’re doing? Glad to hear you’re back in the USA and Wow we never know what curveball life will throw at us? It’s like a rollercoaster of ups and downs it looks like you are doing so much better and that is Great, so happy for you, you’re a Special person it will get even better, you have to take of yourself and do what’s good for you, you take care or yourself and i like you’re paintings too ,you are so talented, take care

  6. Hi Kris, it’s nice to hear from you, it’s been a long time, I was wondering how you were doing? Im So sorry to hear that you’re marriage didn’t work, I hope all is well with you and it sounds like life is so much better for you now, Wow how life does us sometimes? We never know? Life Its a rollercoaster of ups and downs we never know what it’s going to be? But it always gets better, I’m Happy to hear that you’re back in the States and doing much better ,you have to take of yourself and do what’s good and better for you, GOD Bless you and take care of yourself you’re a beautiful Person, I like you’re paintings so much Great talent there !

  7. Kris you are an amazing woman! Strong and confident and a real role model for many others! I’m so sorry to have been hearing about the abuse you endured and am very glad to read how much things have changed for you! *one foot in front of the other! * keep on moving!

  8. Kris, I am so happy to see you take back your life and start living for you. I wish you the best in everything you want to do.

  9. Good to see you getting your life back. Hang in there good things are coming.

  10. Good Job. See ya in June.

  11. This is amazing to hear! Hoping for the best for you??

  12. I wasn’t aware you had been going through these difficult times. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that experience (on the other side of the world, even!) You’re a strong young lady and I’m proud of you for taking care of yourself. Keep the artwork coming!

  13. I’m so happy for you Kris. It is incredibly hard to leave an abusive relationship and you don’t realize how bad it was until you are on the outside looking back. It took me 2 bad relationships to realize I was worth so much more and that I would never put up with it again. I am now in a relationship with an absolutely great guy. We both say that we had to go through what we did to really appreciate each other. Best wishes for your new start. You have the right attitude to get where you want to be. Congrats on the weight loss…it’s so hard!

  14. I am happy you’re in a better place mentally and physically. Congratulations for getting out of such a toxic situation, and I wish you nothing but continued and improved health and happiness.

  15. Kris, I have followed your career since ghost hunters when me and my mom would watch. She always said that Kris is my face and I happened to agree. Always had a small crush. You inspired me to go at my dreams and reading this I see you still are. I’m glad you took up your dream almost full time and more importantly focused on you. Also wanted to say while everyone says your already beautiful and dont need to lose weight. Only you can decide when you are at where you wanna be. Anyway that is all sorry so long. Take Carell my best

  16. It makes me happy to see you’re happy but I’m not surprised you rose above all the garbage life threw at you and have ( and will continue to) reinvent yourself.

    Keep kicking ass and taking names Kris.

  17. Wow. Glad your doing better. I know I would love to see you get back into paranormal investigation and I can guarantee there are a lot of others who feel the same.

  18. So glad to see you smile! You are definitely on the right track. I wish you well and have always been a fan…you go girl!

  19. Just glad he let you leave. Some men get where they don’t want you or anyone to be with you either.

  20. OMG girl! I am amazed by your strength. Change is rarely easy and you just changed every little bit of your life. Kudos to you for recognizing that you have not failed but instead finally put you first. Best wishes, you WILL succeed and will always be welcomed home to NH. ?

  21. Best wishes as you begin this new journey/rediscovery! My wife and I moved to Arizona from Connecticut 21 years ago, and we are so glad we did! You have come to the right place to focus on you. Keep moving forward ??????

  22. Very Glad for you! Keep up the neat art – Keep up the new zest for life!

  23. So happy that your well. Focusing on yourself is always first and foremost the most important thing to do first. Life can be exhausting and overwhelming but it also gives us strength and life lessons. Sending you tons of love and light for your upcoming journeys in life. Your art is simply amazing and beautiful, just like you are ❤

  24. I am so sorry that you were in a toxic relationship. It’s men like that that give the rest of us a bad reputation. I am very glad that you are rebuilding you and that you have found a “good guy” who raises you up and doesn’t tear you down.

  25. You could probably triple the price of your paintings if you were selling them in a gallery, you just need to find the right gallery

  26. Thanks for sharing your story! Very happy that YOU are happy(er) ?

  27. Thanks for sharing your story! Happy that YOU are happy(er) ?

  28. God bless you and continued success! You have this!

  29. So glad you are back in the states and out of that situation. I have always thought of you as being fearless! Best of luck in all your future endeavors!

  30. A lot of people wouldn’t know what to do with their life and stay in that situation which wouldn’t be healthy or good for them. It takes a strong willed person to know when they need to make the best of their life. It may take hard decisions and such to turn your life around and get out of the bad situation. It’s extremely greasy to hear that you are doing so much better and are back on track with your happiness and your life. Never surrender your freedom. Wish you all the best and let’s keep that smile upon your face each and every day.

  31. So happy you are back and out of a bad situation. Arizona is a great place to be. Praying for peace, happiness and for a job you love.

  32. I am so happy for you! I was in a very toxic relationship for almost 10 years and the toll it took on my mental, emotional, and physical health was staggering. I’m still working on me, but I’m so much happier now that I’m on my own.

  33. Very good news! Super happy your feeling better and better about where you are! You’re awesome!!!!!

  34. Very happy for you Miss Williams!
    Sounds like you are back to being you!

    1. Thank you, Philip!!

      Getting there day by day! 🙂

    2. Hi Kris! I am a long-time fan from your Ghost Hunters days. Boy can I relate to your story. I stuck with the wrong guy for 15 damn years. I wasn’t married, but he was my first and only boyfriend, so the thought of going into the whole dating game was terrifying. But finally, I opened my eyes and saw what he was doing to me emotionally was more terrifying than anything out there. I wish it hadn’t taken me that long to see that. But better late than never. I finally feel like the person I used to be too. I wish you nothing but the best. Sending good thought to you from Canada! Pam

  35. Great to hear from you, Kris. Keep on with your journey of re-discovery. You’re talented, creative, and intelligent. Best to you and your new relationship.

    1. Thank you so much, Mindy. Been a long time since we chatted last! I hope you are doing well. 🙂

  36. Very brave and honest post. I wish you much success and joy.

  37. Hi Kris! I’m so happy that you’re doing well. You are really courageous for doing what you did. I know it couldn’t have been easy. I wish nothing for you but the best that life has to offer. May you find what you seek. God bless you.

    1. Thank you so much, Eduardo. <3

  38. We love ya Kris! Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers as you go through your change from the old life to your new life. Bless you now and in the future.

    1. Thank you, Jonathan. 🙂

  39. It’s so good to have you back. I’ve really missed you on paranormal shows. Any chance we’ll see you as guest with Amy and Adam?

    1. Thank you, James. No plans to return to the para. Won’t say it def wont happen but not planning to at the moment.

  40. I left an emotionally abusive marriage after 23 years. I was so scared to leave, but I was finally in a financial position to support myself. But I had my 8 yr old daughter to think of (her brothers were adults) and it was hard for her. I made a vow to never ever say anything bad about my ex, feeling that my kids would come to their own understanding and that’s what happened. I have a great relationship with my kids. I haven’t dated again (complicated…health issues, etc). I share a house with my sister and am so glad I finally had the courage to say, “This is over”. Thank you for sharing your story with your fans – I for one have missed your presence on tv! Best wishes from NorCal.

    1. Thank you Tricia. I can’t even imagine dealing with all that and having kids involved – def makes it all that much more complicated. My ex does have a son, unfortunately when I cut off all contact with my ex that meant also meant cutting all contact with his son. Was a good kiddo and knew him since he was 3 so wasn’t easy but I was done using him as one of many excuses to stay.

  41. It may be cliché, but being comfortable in your own skin is important… whether it is a large suite, or a tight cubby of a closet in way over priced NYC… feeling at home (and “remodeling” it to make it yours again) is such a grounding step. Toxic relationships such. Like yourself, I am generally not a quitter and was committed to making things work. I don’t believe relationships are 50/50, nor would that even work. I see them as 60/60 or 70/70… that is if there is balance. Far too often we wind up in 60/20 or 70/10. If you think my numbers don’t add up… well like any BOND, a relationship takes energy. The ones that work are the ones where both parties put in more than they get (hint that extra strengthens the bond) And when you find the imbalance and you are the one holding things together, at least for me at least, I came to my own realization that it was unsustainable. It takes time to discovery who you are, and a little secret, it will be different and change as you yourself grow and change. I think you have a strong network of people who wish you the best, even though you may never meet most of them, you are ahead of the game there. Find what makes you smile, and then see how big a smile you can make – another hint, the more people around you that feel loved makes it a heck of a lot bigger and easier.

    1. …major imbalance and yes… only one holding the ship together due to what I was allowing myself to tolerate. Def comes a point where you need to cut your losses and look after number 1.

  42. So glad you were strong and left. You have the admiration of a lot of people.

    1. Thanks so much, Larry.

  43. Kris, some of us have followed you for quite a while. VERY happy to hear that things have taken a turn for the better !!!

    1. Thank you, Dan! I hope life is trying you well as well. <3

  44. You are so brave! You got out, that’s the important thing. This is the best thing ever.
    You’re too young, beautiful, intelligent, and kind to have gone thru the hell you did.
    Now that you’ve learned that lesson, move on and love yourself.
    Bravo, you did it!

    1. Thank you, Cathy. <3

  45. Glad to hear you are doing well! Sounds like you have made major improvements in a short amount of time! Congratulations!

    1. Thank you Jenny. Yes… its like night and day. I am still trying to wrap my head around just how quick things have changed for the good. 🙂

  46. WHOA! I’m glad you took the steps you did. I’ve been there, myself-minus the Australia part. ? It’s hard to take that first step, but once you do, you wonder how you didn’t do it sooner. Regardless, you/we did it! ??? I’m proud of you and extremely happy for you and all of your growth. ? Enjoy your new start at having your own deserved happiness, and I hope you get your art business off the ground soon. ? ☺️ Cheers to you! ????
    Sincerely, your neighbor in Colorado ?

    1. YES on wondering why I didn’t do it sooner. Thanks so much Linda. I hope life is trying you just as well and hopefully we will both continue to come out stronger from it all. <3

  47. Rock on Kris!:)

    1. Thank you, Miles! <3

  48. So glad your life is back on track! Keep on keeping on & God bless!

    1. Thank you, Mike! Hope you are doing just as well! 🙂

  49. Full power to you!

  50. There I was thinking you were living happily ever after in Australia listening to The Doors while watching Kangaroos hop by. I’m sure you’ll find your mojo again. Until you do, Arizona seems like the perfect place to do it.

    1. Mojo. 🙂

      I think Arizona will be good to me. So, far it has been anyway. 🙂

  51. Your inner faith and your angels will always guide you in the right path you’ll be alright Miss Williams.

  52. So happy for you, Kris!!! Maybe a little paranormal investigations in your future ??

    1. I doooooon’t know! Not promising anything on that front. We shall see what the universe has in store. 😉

  53. Congratulations Kris! It takes time. I know everything will turn out well for you! Keep up the good work. All will be fine!!

  54. Been fighting mental health and also heartproblems past 4 years.
    Finally seeing a bit of happiness and better health. I´ts a great feeling.
    So good to hear about your change and hope you feel even better as time
    goes by.

  55. So glad you’re doing better after that episode in your life. A joy to see the Kris we know via Twitter, Instagram back and better than before. At the end of the day your health and happiness comes first.

  56. Happy for you. It’s been eight months since a LTR I thought was leading to marriage ended. I lost 20 lbs, but have plateaued with some health issues. And I still haven’t started dating again. I don’t even know where to start. And at 52, it isn’t like I have a lot of time left for a lasting relationship to happen. So, still struggling without the round the world move. Wishing you the best, young lady.

  57. Happy to see you are Happy and focusing on you.

  58. I’m so happy for you! About three months ago I left a toxic marriage of 13 years. My daughters and I are living with my parents because I also have to start from nothing. Leaving the toxicity is worth it! I know it wasn’t easy but am glad you did it too!

  59. I’m so glad that you are happy

  60. Glad to hear you are doing better, I also followed you from when you were on GH and wonder where you went or how you were doing. Glad things are starting to look up for you. Keep your head up. Welcome back.

  61. So glad to know you’re happy. I’ve been in a tocic relationship before and can relate to losing yourself. It’s so strange when you realize it and find yourself again. Wishing you all the success and happiness in the world.

  62. I was lost on how your marriage went! It hit me like a boulder rolling off a mountain. But glad you are finding yourself again. I wish you much success on your new adventures !

  63. This is so awesome and makes me so happy for you. I have been a quiet, in the background follower of you since the early GH days. Glad to read that you’re taking care of yourself and doing what’s right for you!

  64. Good for you to get out of a toxic relationship!!! Keep up the good work, do what you love to do.

  65. It takes a lot of courage to change your life. You rock! Excelsior!

  66. So glad you are in better place. You’re artwork looks amazing!

  67. Thats good your doing better. You must come first and your happyness.

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